Author: Neil Schultz

I like to help church leaders and their spouses become resilient and healthy in their ministries.
Overcome Fear in Evangelism

Overcome Fear in Evangelism

How to Overcome Fear in Evangelism

Overcome Fear in EvangelismIf I want to know how to overcome fear in evangelism, where do I start? Although there are numerous resources out there to help remedy our problem, we can also look to examples that currently exist around us.

Helpful Resources on How to Overcome Fear in Evangelism

Helpful books and websites give us confidence and encouragement toward teaching us how to overcome fear in evangelism. Since there are many forms and styles of evangelism, I am going to focus only on a few.

Share Jesus Without Fear

21 Things God Never Said: Correcting Our Misconceptions About Evangelism

Becoming a Contagious Christian

Additionally, websites are very helpful as well. Here are a few trusted fellow leaders in evangelism: Larry Moyer, Ray Comfort, and Chris Walker.

Let us overcome fear in evangelism together. Check out any of these tested and proven resources.

Additionally, here are some comments (permission granted to use) from new friends of Church Leaders Campfire on how to overcome fear in evangelism:

Robert Dallman, of ChristLife, Inc:

1. Get to know Who you should fear: Matthew 10:28 – “And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.”

2. Become motivated to preach the Gospel by the things that motivated the Apostle Paul:
A. Love of Christ: 2 Corinthians 5:14 – “For the love of Christ constraineth us…”
B. Terror of God: 2 Corinthians 5:11 – “Knowing therefore the terror of the Lord, we persuade men…”

I believe that it is our over “familiarity” with God and our lack of biblical “fear of the Lord” that leads to fear of evangelism. We must truly love the lost (not just in word, but in deed – i.e. preaching the Gospel to them). This love will increase as we get to know Jesus better, and truly believe in hell.

If we fear the Lord… love the lost… live in the reality of where the unrepentant will spend a literal tormented eternity (hell)… His Holy Spirit will help us overcome our fear of people.

Phil Gioja, of Heartland Seeds:

“I’ve shared my faith only a few times directly in a way to evangelize someone. For me it was seeing how the gospel fit a need in the other person’s life that came up through relationship & conversation, and explaining that. But I live fairly transparently so most people who know me know I’m a believer, read my blog, hear me talk about my faith, see things on Facebook, so I know people see me as a believer. I hope my walk speaks strongly and my words back it up; I want my entire life to give God glory.”

 

 

 

 

How to Train Small Group Leaders

How to Train Small Group Leaders

How to Train Small Group Leaders, part 1

How to train small group leaders | Church Leaders CampfireIf I want to know how to train small group leaders, then I must instinctively know what kind of small group I am looking to have. Borrowing from parenting wisdom, one must know their intended goal for that particular group in order to know how to train leaders for them. If your intended goal or purpose for the group is unsettled for you, then may I suggest you do additional research. If you are a Senior Pastor looking to start a small group ministry at your church, a small groups pastor looking to improve upon the existing ministry, an associate pastor overseeing small groups, a church planter just beginning the blueprint or DNA for the church, or a Youth Pastor or Children’s Director looking to add this ministry to your list of current ministries, then this is for you.

How to train small group leaders can be as varied and complicated as choosing the right American wedding menu (Never again)! Conversely, it can be oversimplified into a one-size fits all pattern (even the Air Force doesn’t do that). Before we get into determining small group purpose, let’s look at YOU, the small group overseer / champion / area coordinator / pastor.

So, how do we train small group leaders? Part 1 of how to train small group leaders begins with you. If you are the leader responsible for making this happen in your church or community, then you will need to clothe yourself with two things:  “COL2:6n7.” and “T.A.P.”

Clothe Myself with COL2:6n7?How to train small group leaders | Clothe Yourself with Christ - Col. 2:6-7

Yes, I know… it looks like a Star Wars droid name. Knowing how to train small group leaders begins with clothing oneself with a COL2:6n7 perspective. COL2:6n7 stands for (you guessed it), Colossians 2:6-7 (ESV) “Therefore, as you received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk in Him, rooted and built up in Him and established in the faith, just as you were taught, abounding in thanksgiving.”

When you consider the idea of recruiting, training, encouraging, supporting or helping small group leaders troubleshoot, this is the perspective we need to clothe ourselves in. We need a close relationship with Jesus–one that finds our identity and encouragement in Him and one that is grateful for His continuing work on our behalf (Romans 8:34). Church leader, if you struggle in this area, then training a small group will be very difficult and fruitless without Jesus involved (John 15:5).

Clothe Myself with T.A.P.?

Knowing how to train small group leaders also begins with T.A.P. which stands for Tenacity, Attitude and Persistence. These qualities simply sum up the character needed to lead other people: gumption. Click on the link to the left and you’ll find it defined as initiative, aggressiveness, resourcefulness. In other words, whether it’s recruiting, training, troubleshooting, firing a volunteer, or whatever, T.A.P. is required whether we like it or not. Can’t find a supporting Bible verse for this? Look at the life of Jesus. Was He passive? Did He shirk responsibility? Was He a One Approach Fits All kind of guy? Nope. I dare say He had T.A.P. and wants to give that to us (even though we may be cut from the timid cloth.) Another way of saying this is, BOLDNESS. So where do I find that boldness? In my relationship with Jesus Christ.

Question: What character traits do YOU think are necessary in how to train small group leaders?

One Thing Living… the Secret of Life!

One Thing Living… the Secret of Life!

What is the secret of life? It’s One Thing Living.

One Thing Living… In this scene from City Slickers, despite Curly’s tough exterior, he is a wise man indeed. Curly advises the main character how to face his problems: by concentrating on the “one thing” that is most important in his life.

What is your One Thing? Curly from City Slickers speaks about passion and singleness of purpose.

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Raising Kids = Discipleship

Raising Kids = Discipleship

Raising kids = discipleship.

“All the principles of discipleship can be learned in raising kids.” – Robert Coleman, at Exponential 2013.

Raising Kids = Discipleship

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At the heart of every dad like me who desires to be raising kids in view of eternity, comes the need to make discipleship simple, manageable, and effective. Unfortunately this quote is true as well: “nothing is ever so simple that it cannot be made more complicated.”

Lord, if raising kids = discipleship, then is discipleship like raising kids? If I want to imprint and impress the commands of Jesus and His firm love and holiness in another person, then is it like raising kids? Raising kids is slow, agonizing at times, feels like two-steps-forward, five-steps-back sometimes. It is releasing and letting go, but then soon afterwards, grasping and bringing back to “safety.” Raising kids = discipleship.

Oh Lord, please help us church leaders get it that to lead others in discipleship is to give of ourselves daily, and sometimes simply offering what we’ve got: the stuff of life (good, bad and ugly), memories of Bible studies completed long past (when we’re out of “fresh” interaction with God), honesty and openness about our own struggles with sin, and even providing a friendship with them. Is discipleship really about meeting together once a week to read a Christian book together, ask “hard questions” about sin struggles, a quick prayer and “see you next week?” Oh bother.

I agree with Robert Coleman, and appreciate simplicity in his statement about Raising kids = discipleship, and discipleship being like raising kids. The light bulb just went on for me.

Does Prayer Do Anything?

Does Prayer Do Anything?

Does prayer do anything? Even a cursory read of Numbers 11:1-3 is easy to see a few interesting principles of life about complaining and God’s response, as well as a leader’s prayers and God’s response.Does prayer do anything?

Complaining ticked even GOD off. Whoa! See where complaining gets us? When your children were little and you took them on an outing that might not have gone as planned, did they complain? Did they grumble? Did they WHINE?

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How to Get Into Ministry

How to Get Into Ministry

How to Get Into Ministry

I have spent the past nineteen years serving Jesus Christ in full-time ministry. While church planting, I served tri-vocationally. That’s right. I held three jobs. Not to mention I am married and have five children. I served as a church planter, owned a company, and joined the Air National Guard as a Chaplain. At the time of this writing, I am in my later-thirties and am staying resilient through all of the challenges and opportunities presented to me each day.

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Dealing with Marital Conflict

Dealing with Marital Conflict

In every marriage, whether a ministry marriage or not, there are spiritual principles and practical applications to dealing with marital conflict. Although no marriage has ever been perfect since the Fall in Eden, having true peace, love and joy is possible even in the midst of all that ministry brings along with it. Ready for it?

Spiritual Principles

PermanenceMarriage in God’s eyes is meant to be permanent! (Mark 10:1-12, 1 Cor. 7:10-11)

Default Conflict StyleWe all experience conflict in our marriages and tend to either clam or explode. Neither of these ways of dealing with marital conflict reflect God’s way or working through conflict in love.

IF you’re a clammer, you need to learn not to keep a record of wrongs done (1  Cor. 13:5) and to not let the sun go down on your anger (Eph. 4:26).

IF you’re an exploder, you need to learn self-control, so you don’t speak words you’re going to regret later (Prov. 12:18; 14:17; 15:1).

AuthorityGod has established for our good and for His glory, a line of authority in the home with the husband being the leader of the home and the wife submitting to the authority of her husband. Wives–we are not submitting to God if we are not submitting to our husbands (or any other God given authority). Husbands–we are not submitting to God if we are not leading our wives in a loving manner.

Submission: Submitting to our husbands is part of what God uses to grow us up to be more like Jesus and should be done:

  1. Graciously (1 Peter 3:3-4)
  2. Respectfully (Ephesians 5:33)
  3. Without fear (1 Peter 3:6) because it is with faith, entrusting ourselves to God (1 Peter 2:23)
  4. As unto the Lord (Ephesians 5:22)
  5. In order that the Word of God may not be dishonored (Titus 2:5)

Guard Your Heart: In dealing with marital conflict, we need to diligently guard our hearts from letting resentment and bitterness take hold in our marriage (Proverbs 4:23; 19:11; Ephesians 4:26)

One way we prevent resentment from creeping in is by surrendering our expectations to God in areas where our expectations cause conflict.

We are able to do this because we are looking to God to meet our deepest inner needs.

Agape Love: God calls husbands and wives to love each other with AGAPE LOVE–All Out, All-In (to us a Texas Hold-’em phrase), 100%, freely and fully, as a gift to God (1 Corinthians 13).

Win them Over: The purity and reverence of our lives can move our husbands towards believing the Word (1 Peter 3:1-2). This is tough on husbands who are church leaders, because when we don’t love our wives in certain areas, we are doubting God’s ways and wisdom related to dealing with marital conflict.

Practical Applications

ReflectWhen dealing with marital conflict with your husband or with your wife, ask yourself these questions:

  1. Am I submitting to the Lord’s ways for my marriage (wives: by submitting to my husband; husbands: by lovingly leading my wife)?
  2. Am I guarding my heart from resentment and bitterness?
  3. Am I loving my husband or wife with agape?
If your answer is no to any of these, cry out to the Lord and right the wrong. THEN, if you need to, go to your husband or wife as well. In dealing with marital conflict, you’ve got to remember to apologize WITHOUT explanations or ultimatums.
If your answer is yes to all three, then BE AT PEACE (you are doing all that God asks of you!) and pray for your spouse.
Discuss: It is not wrong for you to speak with your spouse about an issue in your marriage with which you are not at peace, but remember to:
  1. Do it graciously, not accusingly!
  2. Leave your expectations at the table (don’t increase expectations and resentment because now they have no excuse for not doing it your way!)
  3. Trust God to meet your needs and change the things only He can change in your spouse’s heart.
Forgive: When your spouse makes a mistake–and they will–FORGIVE HIM or HER (Matthew 18:21-35; Colossians 3:13).
Thanks to Cathy Nelson from Grace Community Church in Ramona, CA who provided much of the source material, from which this has been adapted.