Men’s Breakfast

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Men’s Breakfast!

How do we put on a men’s breakfast at church? WHY do we put on a men’s breakfast at church? What is it about breakfast and men on (typically) Saturday mornings in American churches? Should we do away with the paradigm that believes that men should get together once a month to eat eggs, bacon, pancakes, orange juice and coffee, act with caveman-like butt slaps, grunts and charmless witless banter about sports, weather or sexual struggles? Do we really need another sermon–while eating breakfast?

The men’s breakfast idea came about in American churches for what purpose? To bring men together to talk about men’s personal issues. Is that important? You bet! However, I find it hard to believe that most American men feel safe in a public setting to discuss problems with listening ears around. Isn’t in smaller more intimate and intentional settings where we share our pain, struggles, victories and conscience? Such as in the car or in a friends backyard or basement or at the dinner table?

Questions:
1. What is the goal of your men’s breakfast?
2. Does the men’s breakfast accomplish your church’s goals?
3. How would you know if it did?

  • Ben

    Small group breakfasts provide a belter environment for growth than large breakfast meetings at the church. I’ve been part of a Friday morning breakfast for the past 10 years. We come with no agenda for fellowship and sharing…we laugh together; share struggles members of the group encounter; cry together; pray together for each other. A ministry to deployed military chaplains grew out of this group and over the past 8+ years we’ve been privileged to minister to 800 chaplains during their deployments. The outreach has impacted our church and a number of other churches across the country.

    • http://www.churchleaderscampfire.com/ Neil Schultz

      Well said! I’m grateful as a military Chaplain who has benefited from ministry to us such as yours. Thank you! I agree that my most helpful men’s breakfasts have been those that were consistently meeting WEEKLY, smaller in number, and had a limited agenda. Deep friendships come out of experiences like those. Thanks for your comment, Ben!

  • http://www.divine-way.com Marie Kalivas Devine

    My husband used to attend Men’s Breakfast and really looked forward to it. It was not about their problems, it was about the word of God, what they were learning and just having time together alone. They cooked the meal together, they cleaned up together; they loved each other. Church alone does not give the time in fellowship which fosters close relationships. It was a beautiful thing to watch their relationships.

    • http://www.churchleaderscampfire.com/ Neil Schultz

      Thanks for sharing Marie! God bless you! You’re right about church worship services. It seems weekend worship services serve as a launching pad or a small taste of relationship, but unfortunately was not designed to foster deep friendships. It’s much like a house: If my family gets invited into someone’s home, we walk up to the porch and ring the doorbell upon arrival. The point in visiting their home is not to remain outside on the porch, but to go inside and enjoy time together, whether in the kitchen, at the dining table, or even in the family room or backyard. Praise God your husband benefited from his men’s breakfasts.